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Most women know just one way of getting their boyfriend back – I like to call it the ‘dreaded drunk dial’.

Do you really need me to tell you that trying to convince your boyfriend to come back to you when you can barely stand on your feet is probably not going to work?

– Deborah Reynolds, Relationship Expert

How To Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back

How can you expect him to take you seriously or even listen to you when you can’t even speak coherently?

I know how desperate and helpless break-ups can make a person feel but now it is time to cheer up because I have some good news for you!

You will be quite happy to know that men find it extremely difficult to remain indifferent to a woman. This goes against their true instinct. Their instinct tells them to be in a relationship with a woman – preferably a sexual relationship. They cannot remain just friends with a woman, especially with a woman whom they once loved. So how can you use this towards your advantage?

Simple – if you can just get him to be your friend, then it is very easy to get him to want to be your boyfriend!

Over the last few years, I have helped many women to rekindle their relationships and while doing so, I have observed certain patterns. Studying and analyzing these patterns meticulously has allowed me to come up with a set of guidelines for women who want to get back with their boyfriends.

1) Rejuvenation: Your confidence and your self-image have been shattered because of the break up and you need to get emotionally, mentally and physically fit once more. Take a break from your ex for a while. Forget all about him and simply focus on having a great time. Try something crazy like river rafting if you have to – the idea is to feel good once more. Buy some new clothes, change your hairstyle. Revel in the compliments that you will receive from your friends, family and possibly even other men. Be socially outgoing and just have fun.

2) Re-initiation: Now that you feel good in your skin, you may initiate contact. I advise you to text him as this comes across as casual and non-needy even if it is a little unexpected. Just have a normal, friendly conversation with him. If you have followed the first phase properly, then you will project a positive, exciting vibe. KEEP THE INTERACTION SHORT. Don’t cling. Text him intermittently for about a week and get him to simply meet up with you for something non-committal.

3) Establishing rapport: Be yourself during the first meeting. Make it short and pleasant. you may say that you cherish all the good times and that you want to remain friends. Say it casually as if it means nothing and that you are just trying to be cordial. End the interaction first. This enables you to remain in control.

4) Escalation: Now that you have agreed to be ‘friends’, you can meet up for things that friends do together. This can be something as simple as having a drink together or something exciting and memorable. This is the time when you can stat flirting lightly. Remember what I said in the beginning of this article – it is difficult for him to remain just friends. Go on friendly ‘dates’ and don’t try too hard. He liked you for who you are but then things went sour. You just have to overwrite the negative emotions with positive ones and he will want to be with you again.

5) Seal the deal: If you do all of the above properly, you two will definitely make a romantic connection. He might act hesitant or confused initially but he will ultimately give in if you remain persistent (don’t confuse with needy). Nature always takes it course!

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Posted on Dec 16, 2013

About the Author

Deborah is the owner of this site, a dating and relationship expert and a wife and mother to a wonderful husband and two twin girls.

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